There's one thing that is certain: it's a horrific, traumatizing scenario - ( read it under the spoiler tags. )
But awful, traumatizing things have happened in BtVS before, since season 1. Which is why I'm not on principle against the storyline. But it's the attitude in some corners of the fandom that has been making me furious. It hurts when some people are completely, aggressively dismissive and keep insisting that it's really not that bad at all, don't make a big deal out of it. ( Read how the fandom and some of the staff has been making me see red. )
Where I differ from most people on both sides on the fence is that I don't think that Whedon and Dark Horse are necessarily unaware of the consent issues. ( These are my current views. )